Poll

Feb. 22nd, 2014 02:25 pm
[identity profile] krystalkatz.livejournal.com posting in [community profile] krystalkatzficz
Okay I was reading a blog that kind of confirmed what I already knew…My sex scenes are wrong for gay men…But as a bisexual woman I was already pretty certain that they wouldn't be, there are some things that are not known and to be honest if we were all to write realistic sex it would be pretty boring >_<

Since I already have a lack of confidence in my scenes I was curious if people would like me to make them more realistic and less flowery or just keep them the way that I have been and just you know screw realism?

Sorry for asking it’s just I want people to enjoy what I write >.<

Krys ^_^

[Poll #1957721][Poll #1957721]
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Date: 2014-02-22 02:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sayurikimura.livejournal.com
I actually dun really care about if your sex scene is realistic or not but I love the way it is, the way that you presenting it always. Just do what you do best, dun let others tells you that you are wrong...this is your pages, just write it the way you love it. I love all your fanfics...love it!

Date: 2014-02-22 02:42 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pamu13.livejournal.com
i already like the way you write them, you show a lot of emotions being experienced by the characters while they're having sex, and i love that. so i think you should just keep them the way that you've been doing them. :)

but its completely up to you of course. im just giving my opinion. im still gonna read your stories no matter what yow. ehe xD

Date: 2014-02-22 02:44 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nathaxpen.livejournal.com
I love your sex scenes they way they are, I do not care if they are realistic or not. The way you describe and write them is perfect from my point of view. You should write them as you want and feel. Don't let others tell you otherwise!!
I love your docs!!

Date: 2014-02-22 03:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] liliyagudin.livejournal.com
In fact, I don't care if your scenes are realistic or not. All I know is I really like the way you describe these scenes, with a lot of feelings and emotions.
So, do as you want, and don't worry about what some others can think !

Date: 2014-02-22 03:03 pm (UTC)
reveetoile: (escape)
From: [personal profile] reveetoile
I didn't take the poll because I don't care...
But I have to say this: You should write what you like and how you like it. It's your story and you have to be proud and fine with it. Regardless what others may or may not say.
There will be always people who criticize. So just do what you love :)

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Date: 2014-02-22 03:04 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] baboy-19.livejournal.com
I usually don't care much with the sex scenes coz I'm really after the fluff that comes with it..or whatever that comes with it..haha!! your scenes are hot tho!! XD <3 write what you feel like writting..

Date: 2014-02-22 03:10 pm (UTC)
cleotine: (J_ChocoJun)
From: [personal profile] cleotine
I chose "unrealistic" but I want to elaborate a little bit.

I am not a gay man so I cannot judge how realistic your sex scenes are. To me they are realistic in the sense that I think they could be happening like that. They are perfectly fine in the respect that you give the sex the right amount of "weight" or "importance" it has for the characters.

For me unrealistic sex scenes are those that have the protagonists screwing around without a thought to physical or psychological impossibilities. There are so many authors who write about sex in a way that makes me think they've either never had sex or have only have almost abusing sex. (This is so hard to put into words -_-') To me, having sex always has a meaning (even if the motive is "only" physical gratification) and it cannot be viewed, described or judged without considering that meaning.

To me you do think about the motives and make your characters act accordingly. You do not blank out that there are almost always some sort of feelings involved (not only love, but also lust, affection, attraction or loneliness etc etc). So even if the NC-17 scenes you write are not strictly the way gay men can have sex physically, they are the way gay men can have them emotionally.

PS: And if you are still unsure: This fiction and what you write are your fantasies (in the sense that you dream them up while writing, not necessarily that they turn you on ^.~), so screw the ones who are critizing you.
PPS: Right now I'm taking theatre classes and our teacher always tells us this: There are little policemen in our head that judge our actions ("You can't do that because it'll be embarassing" - "You will make a fool out of yourself" - "You do not have the talent for it" etc) and in the end they prevent us from trying to stretch our boundaries. Her advice: Just ignore them, be brave and try it!

Date: 2014-02-22 03:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ralatoindah.livejournal.com
I love all your fics and I sincerely hope that you'll be more confident of it..
You're not a man yet you write wonderful bl stories..
I also love to write and I admit that I can never write a story if I never experienced the things I would like to write.. (empiricist xD.) As a lesbian/bisexual myself who's never experienced intimate moments with men I can never write things that only men can do to women xD. *that's why I can never finish my nc17 stories xD.*
Please do what ever you want to do, if that makes you comfortable then please continue :).

Date: 2014-02-22 03:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] helenmaldon.livejournal.com
I think you should write them however you want to, and whatever seems right to you, whether it is "realistic" or "unrealistic." There are lots of things that are "unrealistic" but that make a good story. I think your sex scenes are great because it's always clear that you care about the characters and their relationships---the scenes always have feelings and meanings behind them, which I think is the best <3
So, I will read either your realistic or your unrealistic scenes ^^

Date: 2014-02-22 03:33 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] j-sei.livejournal.com
I think it's okay the way it is :3
I can't do some critic or gave you some input because I don't really know how man and man sex scene should be >///<
Like others have said, it's all your thought and there is nothing wrong to voice them out with writing them. Not all people have the same idea for one thing so... :DD
If I could say this: be damned with those people xD you are the one who wrote it, don't like it, don't read. It's not like they are forced to read your fics.
And be sure that many people enjoy reading your fics Krys :)

Date: 2014-02-22 03:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lilisan31.livejournal.com
I can't vote.. Because actually (and forever !) I love your scene no matter what kind, it is your style after all.
And sometimes all depends on the story.. Finally we can't really choose, right ?
I think there will always be people who will not like this or that story though even if you change them.
Remain as you are and makes you happy ! That's what I think !
For me write is above all a selfish pleasure.
Sorry I don't really help you >~

Date: 2014-02-22 04:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] gambitsfox.livejournal.com
Though I voted for what you believe to be unrealistic.......I think it's pretty damn close anyway. I love how you write.....real or not. I think it would be interesting to have problems sometime during sex (like it must hurt more than we think for some or someone probably left hanging while the other falls asleep?). But in the long run even though I LOVE pwp I think the story makes the actions come alive. Thanks girl for giving us so many! : )

Date: 2014-02-22 05:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] purplemim.livejournal.com
i don't care at all if your sex scenes are realistic or not. the only thing that matters is that we can dream with what you write, so even if it's not waht happen in the intimacy of gay couple, it's completly all right!
but of course, you need to write it the way you prefer! but the non-realictic side is really really good ;-)

Date: 2014-02-22 06:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicco-vicky.livejournal.com
I love the way yo wrote the sex parts in your fics. Love, passion, lust, affection, care...... all in one, for me, yours nc-17 and sex parts,are realistic the way you write them.

Date: 2014-02-22 06:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] atenea005.livejournal.com
well your style is your style,that make the things are interesting, I think you can write as you like, I like your style that's reason I read it. Also It's your world that you make and shows us and you can do you most like, well It's my opinion :)

Date: 2014-02-22 06:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] florence alamkan (from livejournal.com)
I love your stories,so don't change anything.

Kiss

Date: 2014-02-22 11:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dorayaki-chan.livejournal.com
I never have any problem with your sex scene , it was written so beautifully and I am sure the other reader are agree with me just do what you want :)

Date: 2014-02-23 12:11 am (UTC)
coolohoh: Biohazard (Default)
From: [personal profile] coolohoh
i don't actually know what is realistic, wont ever know first hand either since I'm not male... but i don't read fics to find out how gay men have sex so I'm fine with however fanciful/exciting/interesting/unreal you want to exaggerate/write things... XD (i love it more that way in fact)

Date: 2014-02-23 01:18 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] yumi-usagi.livejournal.com
I wish there was a choice "Keep writing as what you did". I love your writing style. And as the person who read your fic since the beginning, I can definitely saw your improvement which is the flow of the fic, the emotion of your characters, the typos. I also saw how you tried to make the sex scene different for each fic. I can never be bored reading your fic in general and the sex scenes in specific. Every time I read the sex scenes you wrote I found it interesting and unique.
I just want to say to you that please be confident (like how you encouraged me to be confident with my plot ^^) and keep writing as you do right now.

Date: 2014-02-23 06:15 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] momokan69.livejournal.com
Sorry for not taking the poll, I (and looks like other readers too) honestly think realistic or not, I enjoy what you wrote as it is :D
I'm not really an expert on this category, but in my opinion, a fiction is outcomes from our imagination, so I don't really care if its being unrealistic, my thought is just simple like that XD
I love the way you wrote as it is the best, the feels in all of your fics are delivered to your readers, that is what I love the most <333 (and your sex scene is HOT, I really have no complain XD)
(And I would like to say sorry (again and again) for rarely comment in your fics anymore... I feel really like a bad reader... TT^TT)
I will always support your writings! See you again! ^^

Date: 2014-02-23 08:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tempestade-13.livejournal.com
There is nothing wrong with the way you write, I looooooooove your writing. Write the way in which you feel comfortable!!!!!!!!!

Hugs ^ _ ^

Date: 2014-02-23 10:26 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] asha-sasikirana.livejournal.com
I don't care if your sex scene realistic or not,. I just simply love the way you describe the sex scene

Date: 2014-02-23 10:27 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] asha-sasikirana.livejournal.com
I don't care if your sex scene realistic or not,. I just simply love the way you describe the sex scene in your story <3

Date: 2014-02-23 10:31 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] matsuaurore.livejournal.com
I love your sex scenes and I'm curious about this blog, could you give me the name? And if you really feel uncomfortable with your sex scenes, try to write both ^^ but I really like what you write, so, I can't vote xD

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Date: 2014-02-23 10:43 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] br-arashi.livejournal.com
Loooool!
Baby, I'm not sure what kind of blog you've been reading, but there's no such thing as "wrong for men"!
There are several kinds of sex and each person do it on their own way.
I have several gay friends and they were always kind and teasing with their boyfriends!
And I watch japanese gay movies as well, their sex are rough when they do it without feeling and sweet when they are in love, just like everybody else on the planet!!
So don't worry!
You're just perfect!
If you wish, I can recommend you some movies regarding it!
Kisses and love!
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