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Okay I was reading a blog that kind of confirmed what I already knew…My sex scenes are wrong for gay men…But as a bisexual woman I was already pretty certain that they wouldn't be, there are some things that are not known and to be honest if we were all to write realistic sex it would be pretty boring >_<
Since I already have a lack of confidence in my scenes I was curious if people would like me to make them more realistic and less flowery or just keep them the way that I have been and just you know screw realism?
Sorry for asking it’s just I want people to enjoy what I write >.<
Krys ^_^
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Since I already have a lack of confidence in my scenes I was curious if people would like me to make them more realistic and less flowery or just keep them the way that I have been and just you know screw realism?
Sorry for asking it’s just I want people to enjoy what I write >.<
Krys ^_^
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Date: 2014-02-22 02:42 pm (UTC)but its completely up to you of course. im just giving my opinion. im still gonna read your stories no matter what yow. ehe xD
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Date: 2014-02-23 12:09 pm (UTC)I'm also very happy that you'll continue reading no matter what :D
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Date: 2014-02-22 02:44 pm (UTC)I love your docs!!
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Date: 2014-02-23 01:12 pm (UTC)He wasn't criticizing me personally I just took it that way >.<
:D
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Date: 2014-02-22 03:03 pm (UTC)So, do as you want, and don't worry about what some others can think !
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Date: 2014-02-23 12:11 pm (UTC)I'll try but it's really hard when I really want to please people >.<
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Date: 2014-02-22 03:03 pm (UTC)But I have to say this: You should write what you like and how you like it. It's your story and you have to be proud and fine with it. Regardless what others may or may not say.
There will be always people who criticize. So just do what you love :)
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Date: 2014-02-23 03:23 pm (UTC):DDD thank you for your kind words :D
I promise to try and be more confident with what I write :D
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Krys ^_^
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Krys ^_^
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Date: 2014-02-22 03:10 pm (UTC)I am not a gay man so I cannot judge how realistic your sex scenes are. To me they are realistic in the sense that I think they could be happening like that. They are perfectly fine in the respect that you give the sex the right amount of "weight" or "importance" it has for the characters.
For me unrealistic sex scenes are those that have the protagonists screwing around without a thought to physical or psychological impossibilities. There are so many authors who write about sex in a way that makes me think they've either never had sex or have only have almost abusing sex. (This is so hard to put into words -_-') To me, having sex always has a meaning (even if the motive is "only" physical gratification) and it cannot be viewed, described or judged without considering that meaning.
To me you do think about the motives and make your characters act accordingly. You do not blank out that there are almost always some sort of feelings involved (not only love, but also lust, affection, attraction or loneliness etc etc). So even if the NC-17 scenes you write are not strictly the way gay men can have sex physically, they are the way gay men can have them emotionally.
PS: And if you are still unsure: This fiction and what you write are your fantasies (in the sense that you dream them up while writing, not necessarily that they turn you on ^.~), so screw the ones who are critizing you.
PPS: Right now I'm taking theatre classes and our teacher always tells us this: There are little policemen in our head that judge our actions ("You can't do that because it'll be embarassing" - "You will make a fool out of yourself" - "You do not have the talent for it" etc) and in the end they prevent us from trying to stretch our boundaries. Her advice: Just ignore them, be brave and try it!
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Date: 2014-02-23 11:17 am (UTC)I've also read some stories like that and I have to admit that I found them pretty improbable >.<
I understand that sex, no matter who it is or with, is a pretty big step and it's a really emotional one too even if you're just with that person for the physical release your brain does go through an emotional whirlwind (or at least it does for me) Thank-you :)
hehe I think that this is a little bit of both ne ;)
yeah my therapist always said something like that too but I have always lacked confidence in everything I've ever done >.< even when I was able to go to uni I never believed I was worthy of the place and I almost dropped out a few times until my professor pretty much shouted at me and accused me of doubting his opinion >.<
Thank-you again :)
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Date: 2014-02-22 03:11 pm (UTC)You're not a man yet you write wonderful bl stories..
I also love to write and I admit that I can never write a story if I never experienced the things I would like to write.. (empiricist xD.) As a lesbian/bisexual myself who's never experienced intimate moments with men I can never write things that only men can do to women xD. *that's why I can never finish my nc17 stories xD.*
Please do what ever you want to do, if that makes you comfortable then please continue :).
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Date: 2014-02-23 11:28 am (UTC):D
lol, I guess you could just imagine the characters as people that you have been with and just change things around a little? My brain tends to pull ideas out of no-where...>.<
Thank-you :D I'm going to try and do what I like :D
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Date: 2014-02-22 03:25 pm (UTC)So, I will read either your realistic or your unrealistic scenes ^^
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Krys ^_^
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Date: 2014-02-22 03:33 pm (UTC)I can't do some critic or gave you some input because I don't really know how man and man sex scene should be >///<
Like others have said, it's all your thought and there is nothing wrong to voice them out with writing them. Not all people have the same idea for one thing so... :DD
If I could say this: be damned with those people xD you are the one who wrote it, don't like it, don't read. It's not like they are forced to read your fics.
And be sure that many people enjoy reading your fics Krys :)
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Date: 2014-02-23 03:35 pm (UTC)yeah I think it would be impossible for any of us to really know ne :D
I'm very happy that people do enjoy what I write :D that makes me happy to hear :DDDD
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Krys ^_^
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Date: 2014-02-22 03:57 pm (UTC)And sometimes all depends on the story.. Finally we can't really choose, right ?
I think there will always be people who will not like this or that story though even if you change them.
Remain as you are and makes you happy ! That's what I think !
For me write is above all a selfish pleasure.
Sorry I don't really help you >~
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Date: 2014-02-23 03:53 pm (UTC)I suppose that's true, I should have more confidence in what I'm writing ne, I just worry about everything >.<
:D I'll try to do that :DDDD
:DDDDDD
No, thanks for your very kind words :D
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Date: 2014-02-23 11:33 am (UTC)Thanks for always reading them :D
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Date: 2014-02-22 05:54 pm (UTC)but of course, you need to write it the way you prefer! but the non-realictic side is really really good ;-)
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Date: 2014-02-23 12:43 pm (UTC):D
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Date: 2014-02-23 03:51 pm (UTC)As long as you're enjoying then I'm happy :D
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Date: 2014-02-23 11:59 am (UTC)Thanks for taking the time to reply :D
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Krys ^_^
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Date: 2014-02-23 01:18 am (UTC)I just want to say to you that please be confident (like how you encouraged me to be confident with my plot ^^) and keep writing as you do right now.
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Date: 2014-02-23 12:03 pm (UTC)Since I also worry that all of my stories are the same I'm happy that you think that the're different :D
I try but I've never had much self confidence ever since I was a kid >.< But i'll try to be more confident :D
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Krys ^_^
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Date: 2014-02-23 06:15 am (UTC)I'm not really an expert on this category, but in my opinion, a fiction is outcomes from our imagination, so I don't really care if its being unrealistic, my thought is just simple like that XD
I love the way you wrote as it is the best, the feels in all of your fics are delivered to your readers, that is what I love the most <333 (and your sex scene is HOT, I really have no complain XD)
(And I would like to say sorry (again and again) for rarely comment in your fics anymore... I feel really like a bad reader... TT^TT)
I will always support your writings! See you again! ^^
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Date: 2014-02-23 03:48 pm (UTC)I guess that I really should be more confident about what I'm writing >.<
:DDDD
As I keep telling you I don't mind if you don't comment as long as you're enjoying what you're reading :D
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Date: 2014-02-23 08:51 am (UTC)Hugs ^ _ ^
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Date: 2014-02-23 03:37 pm (UTC)I'll try and be more confident about how I write in future :D
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Date: 2014-02-23 10:47 am (UTC)Thanks though :D
Krys ^_^
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Date: 2014-02-23 10:43 am (UTC)Baby, I'm not sure what kind of blog you've been reading, but there's no such thing as "wrong for men"!
There are several kinds of sex and each person do it on their own way.
I have several gay friends and they were always kind and teasing with their boyfriends!
And I watch japanese gay movies as well, their sex are rough when they do it without feeling and sweet when they are in love, just like everybody else on the planet!!
So don't worry!
You're just perfect!
If you wish, I can recommend you some movies regarding it!
Kisses and love!
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Date: 2014-02-23 10:55 am (UTC)That's what my brother told me last night, but this guy was mostly talking about preparation and stuff... He said that they don't do it as much as we write about and never with more than a finger or two...My brother said that it depends on the guy he personally likes prep >.< different strokes for different folks I guess >.<
I guess I've just been really down lately >.< and even though that blog had nothing to do with me specifically I took it personally >.<
I really have very little confidence in what I write >.<
hehe yes please I love movie night ;)
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Krys ^_^